If you’re like me, the weeks preceding the High Holidays are largely associated with trauma and guilt. It’s hard not to obsess over one’s wrongdoings during this time, and inflict shame on oneself for not performing as well as anticipated. Luckily, Judaism has a way to counteract this! 

In Parashat Nitzavim, Moses shares how anyone who participates in the Jewish people’s covenant with God is given a choice between life or death (in other words, a path toward good and a path toward wickedness). The parashah states that all who choose life “shall long endure upon the soil” (Deuteronomy 30:20) and anyone whose “heart turns away [from God] shall certainly perish” (Deuteronomy 30:17-18). Moses also describes how those who remain dedicated to God’s commandments will be blessed, and will “thrive and increase” (Deuteronomy 30:16).  

In my mind, these passages convey that Judaism has a built-in system for redemption and forgiveness. No matter how many mistakes one makes, one always has an opportunity to choose the path of life and correct their actions. In essence, even the most self-critical individuals can maintain relationships with God. 

Another idea that comes to mind when thinking of these passages is that one’s relationship with God is reciprocal, and it is God’s desire to build a relationship with any individual who prioritizes a path of good deeds. Earlier in the Book of Deuteronomy, the Torah demonstrates that we were chosen to be “God’s treasured people…and [God] keeps the divine covenant faithfully to…those who love [God] and keep the divine commandments” (Deuteronomy 7:6-9). This text makes clear that due to God’s special relationship with humankind, any person with the intention of following God’s commandments has value, regardless of their history of transgressions or mistakes. 

What are some ways in which you can practice more self-respect in the new year? 

How do you think you can practice taking accountability for your mistakes in ways that do not lead to excessive guilt or self-doubt?